Different Time, Same Style: Iconic Patterns

I’m fascinated by the clothing people wore to express themselves in the past. It’s a lot to consider—their personality, ideas about clothing passed down to them by parents or caretakers, wider cultural ideas about what specific pieces meant, the social-political zeitgeist, and how a person put it all together to create their unique sartorial expression. I like to take this stroll down memory lane a step further by conceptualizing what these people from eras or decades past would wear today, in our time and culture. When I see a picture of someone from the past, I consider what factors impacted their clothing choices during that time. While I take creative liberties, I look for relatable themes I use to construct what their outfit might look like today if they were the same age in the picture. I feel like this type of exploration helps us to refine our own style (what Trulery is all about). Lately, my teenage son has been into wearing headbands. He asked me if I liked it; and I asked him the reason he decided to wear it. Then I proceeded to bombard him with a series of questions (just like a mom). I asked him what statement he was trying to make with the headband; if he knew how, where, and in what context the headband originated; and how, where, and in what context it has been used since then. I shared that if he does not know the answer to these questions, it’s difficult to make a strong statement with the headband because he does not know what he is reacting to, or what message he is actually conveying. Needless to say, he hasn’t asked me about the headband since. But my questioning drove home the idea that confident dressing is very much dependent upon our knowledge of history.

For this installment of DTSS, I’m featuring iconic fabric patterns that have lasted through time— plaid, houndstooth, and florals. Similar to the headband, it’s a good idea for us to learn the meaning of the patterns we wear in order to become more attuned to the messages we’re conveying through our clothes. Of course, it’s an ongoing process, but we can learn together.

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Plaid

We often associate plaid with Scotland; but plaid (or tartan as it’s called) has apparently been around way longer. In fact, archeologists discovered the fabric on mummified bodies in Central Asia! Since that time, plaid has been associated with Scottish families/clans and later used as part of their military uniform. In the United States, it became associated with pioneers and lumberjacks; and was considered a fabric suitable for outdoors. By the mid-twentieth century, plaid was used everywhere from clothing to wallpaper; and has been thought of both as anti-establishment and aristocratic. So seeing Denise Huxtable (aka Lisa Bonet) wearing an oversized plaid blazer in the late 80’s early 90’s, it feels “punk” or “boho”. Both blazers and plaid are masculine; and the idea of a female wearing an oversized plaid blazer is ironic, and perhaps intended to subvert the power structure, in the most stylish way of course. Not to mention, it is also very comfortable to wear, and perhaps somewhat alluring. The oversized blazer still carries the same anti-establishment vibe it did 30 years ago, and perhaps the irony is heightened given the increasing erosion of the white, heterosexual male power structure. Worn with a slip dress, the blazer exaggerates the juxtaposition between feminine and masculine, and the allure that wearing both holds. I accessorized it with a modern, square toe slide that I love, and it fits well with the angular feel of the blazer.

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Houndstooth

Like plaid, houndstooth has been linked to Scotland (they have a way with patterns), and was worn by shepherds (it’s also known as “shepherd’s check). By the 1930’s houndtooth was seen as a symbol of wealth, and designers such as Christian Dior used it in their collections. The classic, black-and-white pattern manages to look both modern and vintage at the same. When Lauren Bacall wore it during the 1940’s, she made it seem both edgy and sophisticated, especially with the beret (which is often associated with military and police), and of course the cigarette. Now offered in a variety of colors, the houndstooth pattern may seem less classic than the black-and-white, but continues to carry that distinguished appeal. In an attempt to evoke the same edgy, refined appeal as Lauren Bacall, I thought I’d pair it with combat style boots and a braided headband to keep it ladylike.

Florals

Floral prints are believed to have originated in Asia, and have been around for centuries. But throughout much of history they were reserved for the “upper classes” until technological advances made printing more accessible. Floral designs are most associated with femininity especially when dainty and small. However, different floral patterns evoke different feelings. For instance, the large, colorful geometric florals of the 60s’s feel modern and fun. The inspiration photo is reportedly of an African-American girl in 1910, and she is wearing the Edwardian fashion of the day. Reportedly, newly freed black people wore these clothes to stand out; and the history of black people “stepping out” or “showing out” may be attributable to this time when it was so important for them to express themselves and their identity. I think this picture is beautiful and love how she is wearing a belt and necklace—signs of individuality. I decided to recreate this look using a dress with floral embroidery, and these Jamaican inspired sandals are a subtle celebration of (my) afrocentric heritage.

Which prints to do you wear the most, and why? I’d love to hear about it in the comments. :)

BE Podcast

Trained as a counseling psychologist, I always knew I wanted Trulery to be about lifting others’ up and helping them manage social-emotional issues that can at times feel so overwhelming. While focusing on design and fashion may seem “surface”, at the root of it is self-esteem building; and the use of design and fashion to support growth in diverse areas of our lives.

With that in mind, I have added a psychology and lifestyle component to Trulery as a space to discuss and work through these social-emotional issues. When I asked my friend, Myriam, if she wanted to participate in a podcast where we can really discuss those topics that matter to us, I was happy she agreed. Here is the first one if you haven’t seen it. And please excuse some of the cuts as the camera cut off several times unexpectedly (again). Bear with me—I’m trying to get a handle on this technology stuff, but I believe it doesn’t diminish the content. So relax, get yourself a drink, and listen to two women talk about beauty and fashion, career, and relationships. Hopefully you can relate.

Pre-Tween Bedroom Inspiration + Mood Board

Hi There! 2022 is fast-approaching, and I’ve recently turned my attention to updating my six-year-old daughter’s bedroom. Well, it’s not exactly recent— I’ve been working on putting it together for about two years now. It all started while I was updating my two boys’ bedrooms during my sabbatical from blogging (is that a thing?). Their rooms are still coming together, and I hope to feature as I get certain pieces in place. So anyway, at some point while working on my sons’ rooms, I became interested in a canopy bed. I’m not sure exactly what inspired the sudden interest, but one day I found myself wanting the campaign canopy bed from Anthropologie that had been discontinued for a couple of years (strange since I saw it many times in the store and didn’t consider it). I think it may have something to do with seeing Carolina Herrera, Jr’s canopy bed so charmingly plopped right in the middle of her living room.

No, it isn’t quite a regular bed, but a daybed similar to the vintage, architectural Italian style canopy bed from Anthropologie. Just like this daybed, the Anthropologie canopy bed’s header and footer are the same height so it can be used as a daybed if needed. I thought how cute it would be for my daughter, Tabitha; and when she outgrew it, I too could use it as a daybed in the living room or den. (brilliant!) I showed her the bed and of course she loved it ( in all fairness with her imagination in full gear, it doesn’t take much to excite her with something dreamy like a canopy bed).

From that point on, the hunt to find the discontinued canopy bed was on. I searched day and night online, and became kind of obsessed with looking on Facebook Market. After about a year of searching, I nearly fell off the couch when I found someone selling the Anthropologie bed for $100.00! But all that excitement quickly dissipated when the seller wrote, “Someone, offered to buy it already, but if they don’t show, you’re next in line.” I tried to keep my hopes high; but alas, it was not to be (insert full, crocodile tears here).

As I continued to search for the canopy bed, or (by this point) something similar (I had finally come to terms with the reality that I wasn’t finding it), my concept for the bedroom evolved. I found this picture, and loved the subtle patterns mixed with the more bold mint color. (I took this snapshot from my television.)

The room had a loveliness that was childlike, yet mature enough to grow with my daughter. The mint color also reminded me of Gidget’s room from 1965. Her room was a minty color mixed with traditional, deep wood furniture that had a timeless appeal— very super sweet.

I’m very happy to say I finally found a bed from the Waterloo company in the UK. It is similar to the Anthropologie version and I was able to customize it to my own specifications. I ordered it in ivory for a more romantic look (I can always paint it if I want to change it later). Like the Anthropologie version, the header and footer will be the same height, and I opted not to have fabric on it to give it the architectural feel I was looking for.

I wanted to replace the wallpaper (see current below) with something that conveyed the pretty, subtle feel of the inspiration room—nothing to graphic. So after ordering a few samples that didn’t work, I ordered this one. They weren’t offering samples so I’m excited to see what it looks like in person.

Although I’ll be changing furnishings quiet a bit, there is still some furniture that will stay in the room, like this Bombay dresser. It adds a classic element, and grounds the bright color.

And this end table and lamp will stay as well since they fit in a more mature room.

I also included an unexpected, fun element—a shoe chair. I’ve always thought of shoe chairs as a little cheesy until I saw it done really fun in this living room. I think a little cheese can go a long way, don’t you? Ha!

So with all that in mind, below is the mood board I put together. It has the subtle yet bright elements, the elusive canopy bed, and some of the furniture my daughter already has that can continue to grow with her.

Of course, as a design psychologist, I have been paying special attention to the vision statement I created from a series of assessments that guide the furnishings for my home.

My vision statement is as follows: my ideal home encourages self-acceptance and self-expression; conveys a sense of warmth, nurture, and stability; encourages play and structure; and reflects my cultural experiences, and love of travel and family with spirit and soul.

So my inspiration room checked off a few boxes for me, including warmth, play, and stability. No longer a baby, I checked with my daughter to see what she thought of the mood board; and not surprisingly she really liked it. But truth be told, she has not quiet developed hard line opinions about her room yet so I’m still pretty much running the ship on the design details. However, in my attempt to encourage self-expression, I’m keeping in mind that she’ll likely have more of an opinion as time goes on, and so I will not fill her room with things; but rather, leave spaces for her to add her own mark. She did say she wanted the canopy to have curtain panels (for hiding I presume). And I told her we’ll see if we can work that in later (still thinking how to do that).

This bedroom won’t be finished before the holidays (the bed isn’t even scheduled to come until early next year); but in the meantime, I’ll be excited to get started on the wallpaper and paint. What do you think—did I capture the inspiration room and home vision statement? Always open to feedback because “it takes a village”.

Here are a few resources from the mood board above: Loews diamond jute rug; vintage Barbie Slim Aaron pic; Ashley Home Modern Heirloom bedding; Society6 Colorful Geometric Pillow Sham; accordion table lamp by Hays; postmodern chair from Chairish; waterfall desk from Chairish; and French chest on chest from Chairish.

Dressing Your Mood

Research shows that women who feel happy are more likely to dress in “nicer” clothes. While this may be oversimplified, there’s definitely something to be said for dressing up. In Trulery Tips 5, I talked all about how formal clothing is associated with enhanced abstract processing, leading to higher-level reasoning and self-control. This explains why we tend to feel a little more composed when dressed up. I remember many years ago, feeling really anxious about giving a class presentation, and my college roommate told me if I put together a nice outfit, it can ease my nerves. So I did, and although I was still nervous, the outfit helped me feel more pulled together. Thankfully, I got an A, and I’d like to think my dress had something to do with it.  

FANCY—Dressing fancy can certainly enhance your mood.

Of course, dressing up isn’t necessarily indicative of happy mood. There are many people walking around with fancy outfits who feel awful. And at times, dressing down may be the cure for a restless mood. I find that dressing moody (e.g., jeans and a sweat-shirt) when you feel moody is as much of a pick-me-up as a bluesy jazz song. Jeans are familiar and can act as a cuddly teddy bear when life becomes difficult. So hooray for comfort clothes!

Comfort Clothes—Wearing comfortable clothing may actually feel like a warm hug when feeling down.

Having to do something you don’t want to can create a whole other mood. I know many people enjoy working out, but I’m definitely not one of them. I do it because I have to, and to see results. Each morning it’s a struggle to get myself together to exercise, but I find that when I put on my workout clothes, I’m 95% more likely to actually start. This is a good example of how clothes can be used as a motivator to accomplish our goals.

Athletic Gear- Putting on workout clothes may make you more likely to complete your workout.

 All in all, there are lots of factors that influence what we wear other than mood; and at times, we may need more than clothing to address complex issues. Nevertheless, clothing sends a message to ourselves and others, and can be a powerful tool to support our emotional functioning. Consider how you would dress your mood if it were a person—what clothing would enhance it or help it be better?

I Am Home: Chrissy Powers

Our homes offer us a lot of things like shelter, safety, and comfort. But what are the ingredients to a strong, positive self-place connection? If you asked five different people, you’d get five different answers because what makes home, home is unique for everyone. Our homes aren’t just aesthetically pleasing, but psychologically, socially, and culturally pleasing as well. Some people need complete tranquility, others need to be continually stimulated, and still others need some mix of both. I always say you don’t really know someone until you’ve seen their home. So I created a series I AM Home to showcase those elements, both tangible and intangible, that make people connect with their homes.

For this installment of the series, I’m excited to present Chrissy Powers— wife, mom, licensed therapist, and self-professed “eternal optimist.” Chrissy’s zest for life reverberates through her magnetic Instagram account all the way to her e-courses, coaching, blog, podcast, and therapy services- whew! While it seems like a lot, all of her work is focused on helping people overcome emotional roadblocks and trauma so they are free to live an authentic, fulfilling life. It’s her passion, and flows out of her in such a natural way. I just love Chrissy’s energy and it extends to her home too! Just one look at her home, and you can see it is a happy, loving one.

Aesthetically, Chrissy’s home gives off a carefree, California, beachy vibe. A perfect backdrop for a growing, active family. I wanted to know more about how her home uniquely supports her and her family; and she generously agreed to let me pick her brain. Here’s what she had to say.

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Trulery: How would you define home?

Chrissy: Our home is streamlined, coastal with a hint of vintage.

Trulery: What makes your home, feel like home?

Chrissy: I feel most at home with cozy comfy items, clean spaces, and with my family around me.

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Trulery: What’s one thing you learned about yourself as it relates to your home?

Chrissy: I’ve learned that I’m eclectic, and because of my ADD, I like clean and simple spaces.

Trulery: What’s one piece of advice you would give to anyone struggling to make their home feel like home?

Chrissy: Make your home yours with art and items that soothe you!

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So what can we learn from Chrissy’s responses? First and foremost, Chrissy’s openness about her ADD is such a gift to the many people who struggle with it, and feel disillusioned about their ability to lead a productive life. Chrissy’s fullness for life shows it is possible, and she uses her home to do it. What aspects of your home can you alter to minimize the impact of any deficits you may have?

Secondly, Chrissy shows us it is the people in the home that make it. That might sound cliche, but if you look at pictures of her home, her family is what makes it invigorating. Of course, she has cute stuff, but it’s pictures of her kids running around, her being silly, and her affection towards her husband that make the cute furnishings pop. You are your home’s best accessory.

Thirdly, know what furnishings or objects you connect to. Chrissy said to fill our home with art and items that soothe us; but in order to do that, we must be attuned to what that is. So how do we become attuned to what we connect to? I’d say it takes a little bit of work on our part. We need to be aware of what is happening around us— what are the trends, what do they mean, how are others putting things together? Warning— this is different than being overly concerned with what others are doing and trying to keep up. It’s about educating ourselves, and learning how to be inspired by others in a way that benefits us, not hurts us. In the end, we should have a better understanding of what furnishings are suitable for us.

What parts of Chrissy’s home style or interview resonate with you?

Dressing for Your Body Type: Diamond and Apple

I’m back with another Dressing for Your Body Type interview, a series where I speak to women with different body types about their body image journey. I don’t know about you, but hearing how women process and overcome body image issues is really inspiring to me. See the last interview here. For this installment of the series, I’m interviewing my god sister’s big sister, Keturah Draper. Keturah’s not that much older than me but growing up, I always thought of her as the cool, older sister. She was upbeat and self-assured, and that compliments any body type. Of course, Keturah’s much more than a cool, older sister. She’s a wife and mother, has been in education for 24 years, and currently works as a high school administrator. She also recently went through a body transformation, and I was interested in knowing more about how she managed her body image through it all. So when I asked her if she would participate in an interview with me, she said “sure”, and I was like “yay”. Here’s what she had to say.

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Trulery: How would you describe your body type?

Keturah: I would describe my body type as a combination of diamond and apple. My shoulders and back are unusually broad, my hips are narrow, and my legs are long and skinny, which coupled makes for a rather difficult shopping experience.

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Trulery: Diamond and apple—Ha! I like how that sounds. How would you say your body image evolved— how did you learn to appreciate your body?

Keturah: I’ve always been heavy-set until recently— I lost nearly 70 lbs. due to health reasons. I never had a complex about my weight, and learned to appreciate my size and height (6 feet) early in life. Ironically, although I’m smaller and can fit into what is deemed “normal size” clothing, I still identify as plus size because I shopped plus size the majority of my life. I’m learning to embrace the “new me”, but I exude the same level of confidence I had when I was plus size.

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Trulery: What is one piece of advice you would give to anyone struggling with your specific body type?

Keturah: Your external self, your body type, can and often changes, especially as you get older and you’re body may not look the way it used to. So focus on, and be confident in your internal self—it’s where true happiness resides. What’s on the inside always shines through to the outside.

Trulery: What styles or pieces of clothing work best on your body and why?

Keturah: My staple or “go to” pieces of clothing which I believe work best on my body are…a good bodycon midi dress; I absolutely love kimonos— they can either dress up or dress down an outfit; maxi skirts/dresses; a blazer or jacket which works just like a kimono; I absolutely love jumpers/rompers any sleeve type; and a fantastic pair of spanx/shape wear. And believe it or not, I do most of my clothes shopping on Amazon!

See examples of Keturah’s 6 staple pieces below.

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Bodycon Midi Dress/ Spanx/ Maxi Dress / Kimono/ Blazer/ Romper

So what can we learn from Keturah’s body image journey? For me, she drives home the idea that body appreciation has little to do with your body type, and more to do with how you feel about yourself in your body. If you feel good about you, your body will follow along, and be as fierce as you are regardless of your size. Leave your aha moments in the comments.