Personality Traits and Dress: Dependent Style

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Welcome to another installment of Personality Traits and Dress! Here we are at part 3 (see the other parts here and here) of our 5-part mini-series, and I don't know about you, but I'm really enjoying see these personality traits come to life through clothes. This is Dependent Style, the copycat cutie of the bunch.

Illustration: Ann Shen

Some people are more inclined to be submissive, and reluctant to assert their authority. Like the histrionic style, these individuals are dependent upon others, but in a more passive way. Rather than demand attention from others as is typical of the histrionic, they are likely to look to others for guidance and direction. These are the friends that rarely initiate a plan, and go along with most whatever you say. While too many dependent features can be problematic, many of us, at some point in our lives, have been reliant on others to help us make difficult decisions. I know I have. But if you have a predominate dependent style, perhaps you feel paralyzed when it comes to putting together an outfit and require the assistance of a close friend to assure you that you look fine. Or maybe you may be inclined to wear an outfit exactly as you saw it worn in the store or in a magazine just to be sure you are wearing it right. That is, you’re outfits always read, “I want to look just like you.” Ever feel like you rely too much on trends or others when putting together an outfit?

Personality Traits and Dress: Histrionic Style

Hey all! This week we're featuring part 2 of our 5 part mini-series, Personality Traits and Dress. (You can see part 1 here.) That's where we show personality traits (not personality disorders) as expressed through dress. While it's grounded in our understanding of personality traits/disorders,  we're really just having fun with these illustrations. Wouldn't you agree?  Here is Histrionic Style, the drama queen of all the personality traits.

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 illustration by Ann Shen

You know that friend who’s constantly seeking excitement and attention, and never forgoes an opportunity to perform or be the center of it all. Well, that’s the “histrionic friend.” Dramatic as all get out, these individuals are pros at drawing attention to themselves. There are many overlapping features between the narcissistic and histrionic style, and in fact some people have both. But the histrionic person is more likely to depend upon attention and approval to feel a sense of adequacy, whereas the narcissist uses the attention to validate their sense of being special or different than others.  If you have a histrionic style of dress, you are inclined to stand out from the rest. We may find you in purple hair, massive amounts of jewelry, or anything else that might be a conversation starter.  I think we’ve all wanted to stand out from time-to-time, don’t you? But if you have a predominant histrionic style, your outfits always read, “I’m here, feel free to look. In fact, I’d prefer it.” I can think of quite a few people who fit this description. How about you?

Personality Traits and Dress: Narcissistic Style

I'm excited to be presenting my new five part mini-series, "Personality Traits and Dress" with the help of the oh-so-talented illustrator, Ann Shen. I got the idea for this series several months ago when I was asked by the Magnolia Project to give a workshop on fashion psychology. That's where we use psychological theories to help explain our wardrobe behaviors. Needless to say, I've been reading a lot of books about fashion and psychology, and one that I love is You are What You Wear: What Your Clothes Reveal About you, written by clinical psychologist, Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner. It features case studies of clients whose clothing reveals deeper-seated emotional issues. While the book doesn’t talk about personality traits per se, I administer and analyze personality assessments for a living, and thought it would be cool to highlight the connection between our personality and our clothing. Let's be clear that personality traits are not to be confused with full-blown personality disorders. A PD is actually a serious illness that prevents individuals from having healthy relationships and warrants clinical intervention. But we all have personality traits or features that affect how we function in our daily lives. Some of us may be may be very orderly and disciplined, others of us may be very emotional and outgoing, and still others may be more submissive and reliant on others. If you’re worried about having a personality disorder, it may be helpful to know that people with full-blown personality disorders typically do not acknowledge having one. In fact, they usually perceive everyone else as having the problem, hence the term personality disorder (ha!). Keep in mind that this series is just a fun exercise and not based upon hard core research. But who knows, it may inspire me to do some research on the topic. There are quite a few personality styles out there, so each series I'll be featuring a different one, starting with narcissistic style.

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Most of us have heard the term narcissist thrown about, and it typically refers to a seemingly confident, egotistical person who has a tendency to be self-involved at the expense of others. If we're honest, most of us can think of a time when we’ve been more self-involved than we should have been, confident or not. But wearing an air of confidence in the form of clothing may not be such a bad thing, unless of course you stick your nose up while wearing it. If you have a narcissistic style, perhaps you’re inclined to take fashion risks with ease, have no problem wearing a t-shirt and jeans because you “got it like that,” and/or will wear nothing less than your go-to designer duds because your wardrobe must reflect quality. Either way, your outfits always read, “I’m special. Go ahead, admire me." Sound familiar?  Tell us about it in the comments. ♥

When Religion Meets Style w/ Fashion Blogger, Typhanie Stewart

When it comes to religion and style, I’m very much inspired by this:

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And not so much this:

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You see, I grew up in a very religious family and have had quite a bit of time to think about this sort of thing. Being exposed to religion early on helped me to develop my faith. But I’ve also had to deal with a lot of restrictions when it came to fashion and style that were not my cup of tea. Still, I’m always intrigued by women whose dress is heavily influenced by religious beliefs. I’m really fascinated by Orthodox Jewish women in their long skirts, long sleeves, and wigs. There’s something refreshing about their modest attire. It’s a nice change from the scantily dressed women we’re accustomed to seeing. But I also can’t help but wonder which of the women just wants to break out and wear their own thing. Perhaps, one of them is wearing a sparkly spaghetti strap top underneath her black turtle neck sweater. Or maybe another one has a scandalous low cut black dress she only wears at home (ha! I digress).

Mostly, I just admire the way certain ladies are able to express their individual style within religious confines, and manage do so without crossing boundaries or causing an upset others will be talking about for days. (Well maybe they’ll still talk, but you can’t please everyone). Modest fashionistas is what I call these women. And I think we can learn a lot about fashion and style from them. Think about it—they have the arduous task of choosing modest pieces that appeal to their sense of style. This means they have to really edit themselves, and can’t just jump on any trend that comes along. Consequently, they develop a sharp sense of style and are sensitive to the message each piece conveys (such as slightly revealing but not over the top). If you ask me, I think we can all exercise our editing skills a bit to sharpen our sense of style.

Speaking of modest fashionistas, meet the lovely, Mrs. Typhanie Stewart. She's a modest dresser with an extreme sense of style. I came across her blog, My Garments of Praise, some time ago, and really enjoyed her style posts. When I first browsed through her blog, I didn’t realize even she was a modest dresser. I simply noticed her style, and this says a lot about her ability to express her individual style over and above any religious restrictions she may have. I reached out to Typhanie to ask her if she would answer five or so questions about her experience with religion and style, and she graciously agreed. Read below for her interview.

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1. TB: Hey Typhanie, first I want to thank you for agreeing to an interview. Can you briefly explain what prompted you to start your blog, My Garments of Praise, and what the blog is about?

 Typhanie: It’s my pleasure! Thank you for having me. Near the end of 2011, my husband and I fell into a significant transitional period, and I desperately needed a creative outlet. I wanted to find a way to stay inspired and be consistent with my writing as a new freelancer while increasing my motivation to read the Word and share it with others. At the time, I was following a few fashion blogs and was blown away daily by their interesting posts and trendy outfits that were practical for the everyday woman. I then began to search for Christian fashion blogs... Unfortunately, I was beyond unimpressed.

I prayerfully started My Garments of Praise in 2012 after a group of young girls at my church expressed their frustration with finding modest clothing in the stores and feeling like they couldn’t express themselves in the way they dress due to our church’s guidelines. I wanted to use my blog as a tool to not only help others find modest attire at affordable prices, but also to show how to incorporate individuality and some of the latest trends into modest, wearable outfits. At the core of it all, My Garments of Praise is my way of expressing how my relationship with God influences my personal style.

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 2. TB: How would you describe your sense of style, and from where do you get your style inspiration?

Typhanie: I would describe my sense of style as classic, feminine, comfortable, and put-together. I try to invest in pieces that are timeless and incorporate trends here and there. I love feeling like a lady, and I have to be comfortable. I’m a firm believer in wearing an outfit and not letting the outfit wear me. I draw inspirations from everywhere, but mainly from church and fellow style bloggers.

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3. TB: How does your religion impact your sense of style? And what, if any, challenges have you faced putting together modest outfits?

 Typhanie: The blog name My Garments of Praise was inspired by Isaiah 61:3, “…to give unto them…the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.” In all that I do (even in getting dressed!), my desire is to do it with praise and joy, as unto to the Lord.

When it comes to style, most fashion bloggers and gurus will tell you that it's personal. I agree 100 percent. Every look will not work for everyone because personalities and lifestyles are different. Personally, my style is influenced primarily by my relationship with God and who I am in Him. I believe that my appearance is just as great of a witness as my words. Therefore, when I shop or get dressed, modesty is the best policy in guiding the decisions I make. I admit, I do hope to attract attention from the way that I dress... but it's the type of attention that I receive that sets me apart. Keeping up with the trends is fun, and I enjoy it. But I make an effort to find ways to do it while staying true to myself and Who I represent.

I’ll be honest and say that I haven’t faced any challenges while putting together modest outfits. What I have faced, though, are challenges to please everyone and their ideas of what modesty is. Some may think my skirts are too long, others think they’re too short. Some think being fashionable isn’t modest, some think fashion and modesty go hand in hand. Some people think the mere fact that I post outfits on a blog for the world to see is out of pride and the opposite of modest, and others think it’s brilliant and encourage me to continue blogging. As far as putting together modest outfits – that’s the easy (and fun) part of it all.

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4. TB: Do you agree that being a modest dresser has sharpened your sense of style? If so, how?

Typhanie: I do agree that being a modest dresser has sharpened my sense of style, and more importantly, it has helped me find my own personal style. Before I was saved, back in high school, I was considered one of the best dressed. I used to spend tons of money on the latest styles and wear things that I wasn’t comfortable wearing just to be a “crowd pleaser.” When I got saved, I got rid of 90 percent of my wardrobe and started from scratch to rebuild my closet. I still had a desire to be stylish, but I wanted to do so in a way that would be pleasing to God and true to who I am.

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5. TB: What is the most creative thing you’ve done to turn a not-so-modest-outfit into a modest one?

 Typhanie: Comfort and convenience are important to me, so I usually buy clothes that are ready to wear and aren’t in need of any effort on my end to make them appear modest. If I need to, though, some tricks of mine are to buy a few sizes up to meet my length requirement and then either get it altered or use a belt to make it fit my body better. I’ve also done some interesting things with scarves.

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For more of Typhanie's super cute pics, follow her on instagram. :)

Having a Moment With...Polka Dots

If you're like me, your wardrobe probably gets a little lackluster from time to time, particularly when life gets busy. So what do you do to resolve this? I like sprucing it up with patterns.  In fact, if your wardrobe consists only of solids and neutrals, some  psychologists might interpret this as a sign you're  "stuck" in a routine or fearful of taking chances. If this is you, incorporating some patterns into your wardrobe may be a first step in trying something new and living life more fully. Speaking of patterns, I've really been enjoying polka dots lately. While they never go out of style, every few years they have a resurgence and suddenly they're everywhere. I finally caught onto the polka dot trend after seeing a bunch of cute dot sweaters this fall/winter season, especially the ones with added texture that give that 3-d effect.  They say polka dots reflect energy and happiness, and tend to be worn by people who are both focused and have the ability to multitask. This pic of Lena Horne in polka dots shows that dots not only reflect energy but can also be quite glamorous. If these qualities are what you want to project,  try a few polka dots pieces if you haven't already. Here are some for inspiration.

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As you can see I really love the skirt. I imagine it with a grey fitted turtle neck and bright colored pointy toe pumps for that classic glamour look. Or if you like the textural details of the 3-d sweater, add a head scarf for vintage flair. And don't be afraid to layer polka dots for that mix and match look. The key is to make sure the dots are different sizes to avoid dot overload and add interest. What do you think of polka dots?

Having A Moment with...The Cape

Hello Friends, and happy fall! Honestly, I love all seasons, but it's something about the fall that feels invigorating. Maybe it has something to do with the start of the  new school year. It's a chance to start fresh and maybe work smarter this time around. And the air always smells crisp right around this time, a faithful reminder that winter festivities are just around the corner. One of the things love about fall is getting warm and cozy inside with hot chocolate and a good black and white movie. And let's not forget about fall clothing. All those layers to put on and so many stylish choices. Shopping for coats is one of my favorite things to do, and lately I've had my eye on one type of coat--capes. Aren't they just so cute? There's something so proper about it, and these days they have  tons of stylish options. Check out some cute ones I picked out. Pair them with jeans, gold heels, and a leopard clutch, and your good to go! having a moment with the cape1

 

 Martin Grant Plaid and Suede Cape | JCrew Jeans| Dunes Leopard Clutch| MSMG Cape Coat| Prada Shoes| Gabriella Wile in Burberry Prorsum

 

How do you feel about capes this fall?