What Winnie Harlow's New Digs Can Teach Us About Creating a Feeling of 'Home'
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Winnie Harlow’s Dressing area photographed by Douglas Friedman for AD Magazine
I came across the glamorous home of model Winnie Harlow in Architectural Digest’s September 2023 issue. Besides dissecting every angle of her sleek new digs, I was intrigued by her story (told by Sydney Gore) and the way she created a feeling of home. Harlow is best known for being the first supermodel with vitiligo, shattering all sorts of stereotypes about what it means to be beautiful. The idea of turning a visible “condition” into a work of art admired by an industry that previously shunned it, is nothing short of genius and very modern.
With the help of A-list interior designer, Martyn Lawrence Bullard, Harlow designed a home that exudes a laidback luxe vibe. As per the article, Harlow worked with interior designers in the past, yet they weren’t able to grasp her vision– her desire for a space that felt both glamorous and soothing. Had she worked with a design psychologist, perhaps things would have turned out differently. A design psychologist is trained to highlight the nuances in our vision for a space and translate it to an ideal design scheme, layered with meaning.
Self-Expression is Everything
Winnie Harlow’s Family Room photographed by Douglas Freidman for AD Magazine
This “vision” we have for home may not always be easy to articulate and is rooted in our self-place connection which first appears early in childhood. As young children begin to experience the physical world, everything is new and enchanting; and it is during these moments that our emotional life and home become intertwined. Our concept of home is much more than a building, it’s a place where we have been nurtured and loved, or not. So it can be difficult to separate the details of the space from our emotional experience with it. And as we grow and experience new places, we build upon those earlier experiences of place.
Design psychologist, Toby Israel, Ph.D. explains in her seminal book, Some Place Like Home, we experience a strong self-place connection when our space fits our image of home and self, allowing for the ultimate self-expression. While an aesthetically pleasing home is something we strive for, a home that meets our psychological needs goes a long way in helping us create a feeling of home. When a home meets our need for self-expression, and we are able to experience a sense of love and belonging in it, it is said to satisfy our psychological needs.
Draw from Complex Experiences
Winnie Harlow’s Bathroom photographed by Douglas Friedman for AD Magazine
Bullard did not mention the use of design psychology, but his ability to create a space for Harlow that made her feel like it was an accurate expression of her suggests he was attuned to her psychological needs. He appeased Harlow’s desire for a glamorous and soothing space using curvy furnishings and warm textures in a dramatic black and white color palette. While I do not know Harlow personally, I suspect that her experience with vitiligo has impacted her design sensibilities. That is, if she was ostracized for her condition and had to learn how to move through the world with an inner resolve about her value, then it may make sense that she is drawn to drama and luxury as a way to assert and pamper herself.
Beyond that, Harlow’s desire for calm surroundings may be a way to balance out her fast-paced, high-profile life, and perhaps a reminder of a less stressful time growing up in the Caribbean. Of course, this is all speculation but a possibility nonetheless. In a similar vein, Bullard’s reported decision to capture the joy of her accomplishments by adorning Harlow’s walls with pictures of herself is certainly consistent with design psychology principles. While Harlow is now venerated for her boundary-breaking modeling career, success is not a straight line and she may continue to struggle or may have old wounds that show up every now and then. So the presence of her pictures act as a visible reminder of her ability to overcome obstacles, and help to foster self-love and a sense of belonging.
Tips for Creating the Feeling of Home
Winnie Harlow’s Dining Room photographed by Douglas Friedman for AD Magazine
Consider high positive associations.
As mentioned above, a home that is psychologically satisfying is key to creating the feeling of home. If you work with a design psychologist, they will take you through a series of exercises to help you uncover the elements of home that are ideal for you. But a simple way to start creating an ideal space is to consider the places you’ve lived, stayed, or visited; and identify high positive associations with those places. In other words, consider what elements from past places stood out and inspired you. Next, think about how you can incorporate those elements in your current space. One thing to remember is that design psychology is not about nostalgic design. So rather than trying to recreate past places, try capturing the essence of those high positive associations from past places so you can experience them in your current space. In that way, your home becomes more of you, and is better equipped to support you as you strive to be the best you, you can be.
Choose furnishings that go beyond trends.
I love a good trend as much as anyone. But we often tire of trends once they have had their moment. So if you do not have the means to keep switching out furnishings, and prefer something longer lasting, think about pieces that you will appreciate beyond the trends. Consider furnishings with classic, simple lines that can be paired with many decor styles, or maybe a sentimental piece that has become part of your home story.
Move objects around.
When we’ve seen a room the same way for months or years, it can start to feel old, triggering the urge to buy new furniture. But instead of spending more money, try rearranging the furniture first. It can give the room a jolt of energy, and create a sense of excitement that makes it feel as if you had purchased new furniture. What’s more, when you rearrange your room during a significant life change, it can act as a catalyst for adaptability and growth.
Think about how much control you have in your home.
According to a 2003 article, the place people remember as most significant during childhood are ones found in nature where they were able to create and use their imagination to the fullest. That is, they valued the place they had the most control. Unfortunately, children who have had traumatic home experiences with little to no control over their environment do not fare as well. It is the inability to make changes to their environment or exercise choices that lead to what Israel refers to in Some Place Like Home, as an “environmental assault” on their sense of self and value. That is, children’s immersion in an environment that fails to validate them contributes to a lack of self-validation. Thus, while you may not have experienced childhood trauma, it shows how important a sense of control is in your living space. You may live in a rented apartment and cannot paint your walls or put up wallpaper, but you may be able to incorporate color by hanging pictures on the wall. So instead of focusing on what you cannot control in your space, turn your attention to what you can do to express yourself in some way and create a sense of connection with the space.
Consider designing for a variety of sensory experiences
While we tend to focus on sight, our memories are triggered by all the senses. So it’s important to consider how a space feels, smells, and sounds in order to more fully connect with your surroundings. The more in tuned you are with your dwelling space, the more it will satisfy you psychologically, and the the easier it is to use as a springboard to live out your potential.
